Monday, June 19, 2006

Today I met with a new mom, the new mom who will be entrusting her 3 month old with me when school starts back up in the fall. I really look forward to spending time with a little sweet baby. But as we talked I could tell by her comments that she is dreading that day that she will actually leave her little pride and joy with me. Its such a double edged sword. I felt like shaking her and saying "don't go back to work, you'll never get this time back!" I really have been fortunate to not have to ever leave my kids in childcare, I never really had the desire to. I can't imagine the feelings that go along with it. I think of all the feelings I had postpartum, the worries, the emotions, I can't imagine adding leaving my little baby with someone I don't even know very well. The difficult decisions we face as mothers. I tried to encourage her to continue breastfeeding, because that is a bond that only she can have with her daughter. She worries that her baby will call me mom, and she'll miss the milestones. I hope I can remind this little one everyday of how much her mommy loves her, and even though she is at work she thinks about her constantly. Any ideas how I can help this adjustment for the both of them would be appreciated.

1 comment:

leaner said...

No suggestions, just an understanding mama. I have been there, not with a 3 month old, but I have been there leaving and accepting a child. I have watched tiny babes, tiny 6 month old BREASTFED baby that only wanted his mama. I have had to leave Rhayn for about 6 months, and it was the most awful thing. She was 2 1/2 at the time, also.

I am sure that you will be able to give this little baby what she needs, and that is another loving careing person- not a substitute mama. Remember, it takes a village to raise a child! Having many influences is a good thing. Sure her mama may miss some of the best parts, the crawling and walking and talking, but she is her mama and her baby will know that. And if she calls you mama, its normal.